About Marriage?

Someone very special to me is getting married this weekend so I am going to be totally presumptuous and offer some completely unsolicited advice (for lack of a better word). Please keep in mind that i would not presume to say that i know everything about being a husband, just ask my wife! With that being said here goes:

Love: Someone once said that "love means never having to say your sorry", what a load of crap! If you screw up, and you will, have enough respect for your partner to admit it and apologize.

Communicate: you've heard it before Ill say it again; it isn't the talking, it's the listening...

Forgive: your going to have to remember this one. Sometimes people are just jerks, if you don't pick your battles there will be times when all you do is fight. Believe it or not you are not always right, admit when your wrong and remember you have not married Jesus! People make mistakes, forgive and forget.

Compromise: giving in is not a weakness, seeing someone's strong points is a strength, choose both..

in sickness and in health means exactly that, if you really, truly want your partner to be around for life it means your going to get old together and,if you don't know this all ready, old people get sick sometimes and taking care of a sick person is work. You don't get to say 'I can't do this'! You are getting married to a man however, let's face it, men are big babies so accept this truth and get on with it.

You might believe in 'for richer, for poorer' but if you think it's about money your wrong! Marriage is a living, breathing thing and it grows just like your kids will. Growth is not stagnant, by definition it is change and people change in different ways at different speeds. Adapt to those changes and make the best of them, believe me, you'll look back some day and celebrate the incredible journey. The riches are in the experiences you share, being human is, unfortunately the poor part.

Which brings me to 'for better, for worse'. I guarantee that sometime, some day your going to look at your partner and think what the hell am I doing here! well you can think it all you want just don't ever say it, and remember, it always get worse before it gets better, if it's worse now you have better to look forward to!

Everyone goes to bed mad sometime except perhaps the idiot who came up with "never go to bed mad at your partner". If its important enough to fight about its important enough to sleep on! Rest has an amazing way of clarifying, use it when you need to.

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Believe
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